Exam Season SOS: How to help a child who hasn’t started to revise with one week to go
Exam season is bearing down on us. If your child hasn't yet started to revise you need to read / listen to this because I'm going to share with you my tactics on how to make last-minute revision count.
But, first, a word of warning.
I do not advocate last-minute revision or cramming. It is not a successful or optimal way to revise or prepare for exams. However, if your child has left it all until the last minute I hope these tips will help you and them on your way. (See my podcast, episode 37, on consistency and this one on the hare versus the tortoise approach).
If your child has been following all my other advice up until now, see my blog post on How to Revise With One Week to Go.
How to help a child who hasn't started to revise with one week to go
1. Get real
At this point, there is no more time to waste. As I say in my book, The Ten Step Guide to Acing Every Exam You Ever Take, “It's never too early and never too late to start doing the work.”Click To Tweet
If your child hasn't done any revision up until now you need to do two things:
- Try to get your head around why they're not revising. It's probably not because they're lazy. There are many and varied quite deep psychological reasons why your child might not be revising. You can learn about them all in this post, 9 Reasons Why Your Child Isn't Revising and What To Do About It, or here are the highlights:
- They don't know how to revise
- They're intimidated by the size of the task
- They think it's too early to start revising (it will be rare, but there will be a few students out there who think they've got all the time in the world until their first exam)
- They don't believe they need to revise – basically, everything comes to them so easily they don't feel the need to put the work in
- They don't believe that revising will make any difference
- They're too easily distracted
- They're too busy doing other things
- They don't know why they're taking these exams anyway
- They're spiting you
2. Once you feel you have a grasp of why they're not revising sit down and try to get through to them that now is the moment to start. It's important that you approach this through the lens of why they're not revising in the first place. If you go in there, all guns blazing, telling them they have to revise when they don't actually know how, no matter how loud you shout, how many doors get slammed or how many restrictions you place on them, you're not going to get anywhere.If you haven't started revising yet, now is the moment to start. Click To Tweet
2. Offer support
Your child is almost certainly facing the biggest test of their lives (unless they've already competed in the Olympics) and they will be nervous to some degree. If they've left their revision until this late stage it's almost certainly a cry for help.
You might say, “Well, Lucy, I've been offering help since last September and all they do is ignore me.” If this is the case, you might want to think about asking them what kind of help they want from you.
The kinds of help you could offer are:
- Help them to work out how to revise. My Kindle book, Revision Quickstart Guide, is a 20 minute read that will get any uncertain reviser started
- Just being in the house while they're revising so that they can feel your physical presence and support
- Keeping them stocked up with snacks and nutritious meals to keep them fuelled
- Taking their chores off their hands
- Having a word with their boss at their part-time job to get them some unpaid leave
- Helping them make a plan about what to focus on in the limited time available
- Actually helping them to learn – have them teach you, test them, find them past papers to work on, that kind of thing
3. Make a plan
Once you're clear about why your child hasn't been revising and the kind of support they'd like from you you'll want to make a plan.
If your child really hasn't done any revision at all until this stage, I would advocate a slightly different approach to revision planning from what I would say to the long-term, conscientious, consistent revisers out there.
Plan to do the revision that will make the biggest difference in the shortest amount of time possible.Plan to do the revision that will make the biggest difference in the shortest amount of time possible. Click To Tweet
This could start with a SWOT analysis where, together, you identify your child's:
- opportunities for improvement
- threats to their overall achievement.
Strengths might be their ability to remember mathematical methods without much prompting. Weaknesses might be not knowing any quotes for their English Lit exam. Opportunities could be putting a little bit of work into a couple of really useful geography case studies to push their grade over the line from a fail to a pass. Threats might be the lack of notes they have to revise from for geography, or the fact that they just can't leave their mobile phone alone.
Taking the above student as an example, I wouldn't waste any time on maths. For English, I'd identify five quotes for each text and spend five minutes three times per day learning the quotes. I would also phone their geography teacher and ask for the two most useful case studies they've done – one for physical and one for human, so that they can be learned at home. Finally, I'd set some strict boundaries around phone use for the duration of exam season.
Next you'll want to set a study routine – how many hours study, from what start time to what finish time, they need to do over the next week.
Also create a plan for self-care e.g. when they're going to bed and get up, what meals you're going to provide and when they're going to get fresh air and exercise.
4. Promise a reward for effort
One of my sayings:
Praise effort over results. Click To Tweet
Praise effort over results
Put this into action by agreeing with your reluctant reviser a post-exams reward for a certain level of effort applied. You might agree that they're going to study for three hours every night after school and six hours each day at the weekend for the rest of exam season. If they do this, they get something they really want once exams are over.
It's really important to link effort with rewards, rather than simply results. Afterall, effort applied in the right way gets results. You need to train your child to equate effort with pleasing you and commensurate rewards.
5. Keep reviewing progress
Once you've set up the plan and got your child going with some kind of revision keep checking in to review how they're doing, what obstacles they're facing in getting their revision done and how well they're doing in working towards their reward.
6. Sign up for my Exam Season Toolkit
I have created an Exam Season Toolkit especially to help you support your child in the right ways through exam season. It gives you quick, simple and cheap ideas to demonstrate to your child that you love them and are supporting them without suffocating them with too much over-bearing support.
Get your copy of the Supportive Parents' Exam Season Toolkit click here, and make sure you've joined my free Facebook group exclusively for parents, the Supportive Parents, Successful Students community so that you can give and receive support from parents going through the same thing as you this exam season. See you in there!
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